Sex Toys for Men: The Ultimate Guide for 2025

A World Too Few Men Talk About

My work has put all sorts of pleasure devices in my hands over the years. But for a long time, sex toys for men remained a distant, mysterious world. That all changed when my partner’s libido began to ebb and flow, and I started looking for ways to find pleasure that didn’t create pressure for either of us.

That was the start of a journey that completely captivated me. I was surprised not only by how vast and innovative the world of men’s sex toys is, but also by the powerful emotions and outright prejudice surrounding it.

This journey has taught me a tremendous amount about pleasure, self-knowledge, and the importance of breaking down needless taboos. Now, I want to share what I’ve learned—honestly, warmly, and without any awkwardness.

Why Every Man Should Try Sex Toys

One of my biggest realizations was the double standard. If a woman has a vibrator, she’s often seen as open-minded. But if a man has a fleshlight, he might be labeled “pathetic” for not getting the “real thing.”

This kind of thinking is not only outdated; it’s just plain wrong. Using a sex toy isn’t a sign of lack; it’s a sign of curiosity and a desire to understand your own body on a deeper level. Here are a few reasons why sex toys can revolutionize your understanding of pleasure:

A Confidence Boost: Exploring your own body and pleasure is empowering. When you learn what feels best to you, it boosts your self-confidence.
A Spark for Your Relationship: Mismatched libidos are normal. A sex toy can be a great way to balance the situation without pressure, or a fun addition to your shared intimate moments.
Unlocking New Kinds of Orgasms: Prostate stimulation and other innovative technologies can open the door to intense, full-body orgasms.
Stress Relief and Well-being: An orgasm is one of nature’s best stress relievers. A quality sex toy can make those moments even more blissful.

What’s Your Goal? Find Your Path to Pleasure

The world of men’s sex toys is vast, but finding the right path is easier when you know what you’re looking for. Which of these goals speaks to you the most right now?

“I want a realistic experience and a better way to masturbate.”
- Your Path: Penis Masturbators. These are designed to simulate sex and offer a wide range of sensations.
“I want a harder erection and a new edge in the bedroom.”
- Your Path: Penis Enhancers and Rings. These are designed to improve performance and provide extra stimulation for both partners.
“I’m curious and ready to experience something that could revolutionize my orgasms.”
- Your Path: Prostate Stimulation. This is the gateway to deep, full-body orgasms that are completely different from a traditional climax.

1. Masturbators – From Classics to Smart Devices

This is the category where most men begin their journey.

Manual Masturbators: You’re in Control

Pocket Pussies and Sleeves (e.g., Tenga Egg): The perfect, affordable first step. Small, stretchy, and surprisingly intense. An easy way to experiment without a big commitment.
Fleshlight-Style Strokers: The Kings of Realism
- The Experience: If your goal is the most authentic, skin-like experience, Fleshlight is still the champion. Its soft SuperSkin material feels incredibly realistic.
- The Downsides: To be honest, cleaning and drying it is a chore compared to other options.
The Tenga Flip Series: Japanese Design and Practicality
- The Experience: Where Fleshlight aims for realism, Tenga focuses on unique textures and, above all, ease of use. It opens like a clamshell, which makes cleaning ridiculously easy.

Automatic and Interactive Toys: Enjoy the Ride

Suction and Air-Pulse Devices (e.g., Arcwave Ion): Remember when I mentioned new kinds of orgasms? The Arcwave Ion delivers on that promise. It doesn’t vibrate; the sensation from its air pulses is something else entirely—and it can deliver the fastest orgasms of your life.
Auto Strokers: Devices like the Autoblow A.I. or the Kiiroo Keon do the work for you. Perfect for when you just want to lie back and enjoy the ride.
Remote-Controlled and Interactive Toys (e.g., The Handy, Lovense): These smart toys can sync with video content, matching their movements to the action on screen. They’re also great for long-distance relationships, as a partner can control the toy via an app.

2. Prostate Stimulation and Anal Toys – Unlock a New Dimension

The prostate is called the male G-spot for a reason. Stimulating it can produce deep, full-body orgasms.

Your Gateway to Prostate Pleasure: A Gentle Starter Guide

This might feel intimidating, but with the right preparation, it’s safe and incredibly pleasurable.

Prepare Your Mind: The most important thing is to relax. Forget any preconceptions and be curious. A tense body can’t experience pleasure.
Prepare Your Body: A warm shower or bath helps relax your muscles. Try lying on your side with your knees bent—it’s the most comfortable position for many.
Lube is Essential: Do not skimp on this. Use a generous amount of high-quality, water-based lubricant on both the toy and yourself. More is better.
First Steps: Insert the toy slowly and breathe deeply. Don’t force anything. At first, you can just let it sit there and get used to the sensation. Even small contractions of your pelvic floor muscles will make a well-designed toy move and stimulate the prostate.

Prostate Massagers (e.g., Aneros and Lelo Hugo): These are shaped to hit just the right spot. They do the work almost by themselves as you relax and let your body respond.
Butt Plugs and Anal Wands: A great way to get used to the feeling of anal fullness. Choose a small, silicone model with a flared base.
Dildos: While often associated with vaginal use, dildos (vibrating or not) are excellent tools for anal play and prostate stimulation.

3. Penis Enhancers and Rings – More Power in the Moment

These toys bring new energy to both solo play and your relationship.

Cock Rings: A ring placed around the base of the penis helps you achieve and maintain a harder, longer-lasting erection. Vibrating cock rings are a favorite among couples, as they simultaneously stimulate the clitoris.
Penis Pumps: These devices use a vacuum to temporarily enlarge the penis, which can boost both size and confidence.

4. Other Toys Worth Exploring

Wand Vibrators: Don’t let their reputation fool you. The deep rumble of a powerful wand, like the Magic Wand, is incredibly effective for men too. Try it on the perineum or the underside of your scrotum.
Sex Machines and Dolls: This is the heavy-duty category. Modern, realistic sex dolls offer an immersive experience, while fucking machines replicate intercourse. These are options for those looking for something truly different.

Sex Toys for Beginners: 4 Golden Rules

Define Your Needs First. Think about what’s most important: discretion, ease of cleaning, a realistic feel, or a hands-free experience?
Material is Everything. Always invest in body-safe materials, like medical-grade silicone.
Start Small. You don’t need to drop hundreds on a smart device right away.
Lube, Lube, and More Lube! A quality water-based lubricant not only makes the experience more pleasurable but also safer.

Your Pleasure, Your Rules

The most important lesson this journey taught me is this: forget what others think and forget the prejudice. This is about your body, your pleasure, and your well-being. Sex toys are not a threat or a sign of lack—they are tools, opportunities, and an invitation to an adventure with your own body.

I hope this guide has given you the courage and knowledge to take the first step.

Are you ready to explore all that the world of pleasure has to offer?