Are you looking for new ways to enjoy each other? Perhaps you’re craving more variety, or some tools for the bedroom that can help bridge the pleasure gap?
The truth is that for many people, intercourse alone isn’t enough to reach orgasm. This is where a well-chosen toy can level the playing field, adding extra stimulation that unlocks new levels of pleasure for both partners.
While often seen as tools for solo use, sex toys are a fantastic addition to a couple’s shared experience.
In this guide, I’ll introduce the best types of sex toys for couples and help you explore which ones might be right for you.
Hands-Free: Toys to Supercharge Intercourse
Let’s start with toys designed to be used during sex. The magic of these toys is that they leave your hands free to touch and caress each other, all while adding a whole new layer of pleasure.
Couple’s Vibrators
These C-shaped vibrators are ingeniously designed to deliver pleasure to both partners at the same time.
How it works: The thinner, internal arm sits inside the vagina, where it stimulates the G-spot and the penis shaft during intercourse. Simultaneously, the external arm rests against the clitoris, providing targeted vibrations right where they’re needed most. Though slim, the toy also creates a pleasant feeling of fullness for both partners.
The most famous pioneer in this category is We-Vibe, whose models like the award-winning We-Vibe Chorus are incredibly popular.
-> Read More: We-Vibe Chorus Couple’s Vibrator: In-Depth Review
Vibrating Cock Rings
A vibrating cock ring is one of the easiest and most affordable ways to introduce toys into your sex life.
How it works: The stretchy ring is placed at the base of the penis before intercourse. The small vibrator on top is designed to make contact with your partner’s clitoris during sex.
A simple addition with a surprisingly big payoff.
For the receiving partner: It provides direct clitoral stimulation that intercourse alone might miss.
For the wearer: The ring can help maintain a firmer, longer-lasting erection, and the vibrations also feel pleasant at the base of the penis.
Wearable Clitoral Stimulators
This is a newer but rapidly growing category. Imagine a small yet powerful vibrator that stays in place without an insertable part.
How it works: These discreet vibrators have flexible “wings” that are tucked under the labia, holding the toy firmly in place against the clitoris. This leaves the vagina completely free for penetration.
This design allows for total freedom with depth and positions since there’s no internal component getting in the way. It’s the perfect choice if you crave clitoral stimulation without the toy feeling intrusive.
Hands-On: Essential Tools for Shared Exploration
While the last section focused on toys that enhance intercourse, this category is all about foreplay, focused pleasure, and taking turns. With these “hands-on” tools, you can give and receive pleasure, explore each other’s bodies, and build arousal to a whole new level.
Wand Vibrators: Deep Rumbles and Full-Body Bliss
Wand vibrators are classics for a reason. Their powerful motors produce deep, rumbly vibrations that aren’t just felt on the surface but resonate throughout the body.
This makes them exceptionally versatile for couples.
A wand can be used for a relaxing full-body massage to build arousal, for external stimulation during sex, or even as part of more intense BDSM play.
One of the best things about wands is that their broad head takes the pressure off finding the “perfect spot.” It lets you both relax and just enjoy the sensations.
During intercourse, one of you can hold the wand against your partner’s clitoris. The combination of deep penetration and powerful external vibration is a game-changing experience for many couples.
-> Read More: The Ultimate Guide to Magic Wand Massagers
Air-Pulse Stimulators: The Revolutionary Sensation of Oral Sex
This category represents one of the biggest innovations in the sex toy world in recent years, and its popularity speaks for itself.
How it works: Air-pulse stimulators, like the famous Womanizer and Satisfyer, don’t vibrate in the traditional sense. They use gentle yet intense waves of air pressure to create a unique sucking and pulsing sensation around the clitoris. Many describe the feeling as remarkably similar to skillful oral sex.
How to use it as a couple: This device is the undisputed star of foreplay. While one of you uses the stimulator on your partner, your hands are free to caress, kiss, and tease. It’s also a fantastic tool for communicating what feels good in the moment.
An air-pulse stimulator is an incredibly effective way to bring a partner to orgasm (or close to it) before intercourse even begins, sensitizing the entire genital area for what’s to come.
-> Read More: The Clit-Sucking Sex Toys Everyone Loves
Penis Sleeves: New Sensations, Size, and Stamina
Curious to see how changing the shape or size of a penis could impact your pleasure? Penis sleeves are often overlooked, but they’re a true hidden gem for couples’ play.
Forget outdated stigmas—modern sleeves made from high-quality, body-safe silicone are versatile tools that offer immediate and exciting changes to intercourse by adding size, new textures, and helping with stamina.
For the receiving partner, this offers a new and intense sensation of fullness. It’s a safe way to explore what a larger size feels like, and different textures can stimulate the walls of the vagina or anus in new ways.
For the wearer, the sleeve creates a snug feeling around the penis. It reduces direct sensitivity, which for many can help prolong intercourse and provide better control over ejaculation. It’s a way to experience your own body differently while offering your partner a unique experience.
Sleeves primarily come in three types:
- Girth Sleeves: Open at both ends, designed solely to increase circumference.
- Extension Sleeves: These have a closed tip and add both girth and length.
- Textured Sleeves: Many models feature bumps, ridges, and other shapes designed to create novel stimulation.
Connection Without Limits: Remote-Controlled Toys
What if you could touch each other from across the city, or even the world? Technology has brought a new dimension to sex toys, enabling playful control, delightful surprises, and a deep sense of connection despite the distance.
App-Controlled Vibrators
Many modern toys can connect to a smartphone app, allowing your partner to control the toy’s vibrations in real-time from anywhere. This opens the door to two kinds of thrilling play:
1. Long-Distance Play:
Imagine handing over the reins to your partner during a video call. They can see your reactions and adjust the vibration intensity and patterns to tease and please you perfectly. The popular Lovense Lush 3 is designed for precisely this, adding excitement and intimacy to a relationship, even when you’re physically apart.
2. Public Play:
Many remote-controlled toys are small and quiet enough to be worn discreetly under clothing. This enables a thrilling game where only the two of you know what’s happening. One of you can wear it to dinner while the other subtly controls it from their phone. The shared secret and the slight risk of being discovered can bring a whole new charge to date night.
Interactive Toy Sets: Feel Your Partner’s Movements in Real Time
If app control was the first step, this is a true leap into the future of remote connection. These toy sets are designed not just to control each other, but to feel each other.
How it works: Imagine one partner has a tech-enabled male masturbator (like the Kiiroo Onyx+) and the other has an insertable vibrator (like the Kiiroo Pearl 2). When synced over the internet, the toys begin to mimic each other’s actions.
Every thrust your partner makes into their toy is felt by you as an immediate, corresponding vibration or pulse in your toy. It’s no longer one-way control; it’s dynamic, real-time interaction.
Why is it such a game-changer? This is currently the closest you can get to physical intercourse through technology. It’s not just about giving pleasure, but about sharing it simultaneously. It creates a powerful sense of presence that can make physical distance momentarily irrelevant.
Beyond Vibration: Sex Pillows & Furniture
Not all of the best sex toys vibrate. Sometimes, the most transformative tools are the ones that change your positioning and open the door to entirely new possibilities.
Sometimes the best position is just out of reach, or one that quickly becomes uncomfortable. Anatomically designed sex pillows and furniture, like the iconic Liberator Wedge, are designed to solve this exact problem.
They aren’t just cushions; they’re tools that offer:
- Deeper Angles: By elevating the hips, they enable deeper penetration and angles that can target the G-spot or prostate more effectively.
- More Comfortable Sex: They take the pressure off your knees, wrists, and back, allowing you to focus on pleasure instead of discomfort.
- New Positions: They make positions that once seemed acrobatic easily accessible and enjoyable.
Paired with a waterproof blanket, you can play freely with lubes and massage oils without worrying about the cleanup.
(Bonus) Toys for Adventure and Trust
Finally, let’s look at two categories that go deeper than traditional toys. These are tools for exploring not just new physical sensations but also trust, power dynamics, and roles in a safe, playful way.
1. Sensory Play and Bondage: The Ultimate Form of Trust
Bondage is about much more than restraint; it’s a profound expression of trust and a way to explore power and surrender.
- Start Light: A soft blindfold is the perfect first step. It removes sight and makes every other touch—from caresses to whispers—feel electric.
- Explore Restraint: A silk scarf or cuffs can create a feeling of vulnerability and surrender that many find extremely arousing.
- Play with Sensation: With one partner restrained, you can explore different sensations: the tickle of a feather, the thud of a flogger, or the sting of a whip. The purpose is to create contrast and explore the boundaries of pleasure. Always agree on rules and a safe word beforehand.
2. Roleplay and Strap-Ons: New Ways to Give and Receive
Strap-on dildos are fantastic tools that enable penetration in new roles and configurations.
They allow a vulva-owner to penetrate their partner, either vaginally or anally. This role-reversal can be an incredibly empowering and intimate experience. Anal penetration where a woman penetrates a man is often called pegging, and it can open up a whole new world of pleasure for both partners.
-> Read More on this topic: Pegging: Everything You Need to Know About Strap-On Anal Sex
Conclusion: Curiosity is Key
As you can see, the world of couples’ sex toys is incredibly rich and diverse. For the adventurous, they can unlock new kinds of pleasure you never knew were possible. The most important thing isn’t finding one “perfect” toy, but maintaining a sense of curiosity and playfulness.
We hope this guide has inspired you to start exploring together.
